should love be a problem?

a close friend is in the brink of a break-up from a two-year relationship. (brink, as in, away.. bati.. away.. bati.. magkakaayusan sa telepono.. tapos away na naman! bati! but they both know it just wouldn't work! hehe.) well, this friend is devastated. big time.

anyway, when she confides in me, she keeps telling me that she can't go through all these alone. she needs people who will always stay with her and help her move on. i said, "gurl, there are more important things we all should be thinking about. you can't expect someone to be with you 24/7 just because of that. you better start thinking you should help yourself. that's your first step, to begin with."

was i rude? well, maybe i should have chosen my words, but i stand by what i said. in this lifetime, there are more problems to be dealt with. a hell of a lot more. love should not be one of them.

aside from being a tough girl, i have been branded by friends as the happiest single person in this planet to date. surely, it's been years since my 'bf' (or boypren-boyprenan, if i may say) disappeared. well, okay. sometime, he still crosses my mind. i just wonder if he's still missing, probably even dead. who cares?! it only took me days to move on and i am still here -- alive and kickin'.. and rockin'! bitter? yes. but to dwell on that? hell nawww.

love to me is like corn and carrots. it's just a side dish. i don't need it. i don't need a significant other. i don't need someone to worship me. and most of all, i don't need sex. if love is there, then it's there. if it's not, then it's not. if it used to be there, then realize that now, it's not there! napaka-simpleng bagay.

love should be good for you. if that's no longer the case, then give it up. love should not be a problem.

take it from me.

i'm a retired hopeless romantic.